LIFE IS FORGIVING

 LIFE IS FORGIVING

Our life is really a blessing. Without life, the whole earth would be futile. The life of the flora and the fauna rejuvenates the planet earth. The cycle of life is going on. Human beings are the supreme rulers of the earth. The life of the mankind is directly associated with the flora and fauna. When all of us live harmoniously on this earth, then only the life of all will flourish and prosper. If anything disrupts the harmony of nature, it will result in serious after effects.

Forgiving; What Does it Mean?

Psychologist generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person or group who has harmed you regardless of whether they are actually deserve your forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting,nor does it mean condoning or excusing offences.

Forgiving In Our Life

We all go through different tough times of our life. There may be some individuals in our life who had wounded us so badly. The strange coincidence is that those were near our heart. We had not ever imagined that they would deceive us. The shock of that deception may not go easily from our heart. It will be there as long as we 'fan the flame'. We have to gather up ourselves from the situation. We should not sink deeper into the problem. If we remain entangled in the sorrow, it may endanger the wellness of our mind and body. So we have to gather courage and should take a decision to go ahead. When the person who deceived us live happily in the society, then why should we stay doomed? Why should we sacrifice our precious days for that person? Forget him for a while and start our daily life.

The Mental Dilemma

Suppose we have forgotten the bitter incidents of our past and we have moved on in our life. There may be many times when our memory trigger up the past deception. Then what will be our reaction? Again we will go back to our past memories and the mental agony we have experienced at that time. What will be the results? Each time of remembrance of our past will bring only distress and frustration in our mind. The enmity for that person will be stored up in our mind. Our whole day will be spoiled by the hatred and bitterness.

Just imagine the fire place in our home. If any carelessness comes, that fire will consume the whole house. This is the same case of our mind. Like a fire, the past thoughts will burn us up. The thoughts of retaliation, vengeance and enmity will certainly consume us like a 'wild fire'.

Towards the Path of Forgiveness

Mahatma Gandhi's one of the famous quotes goes like this; "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong". Only a strong person can forgive his opponent. The weak person nurtures the wound of his heart and destroys his present. First of all, we have to make a slow down of our mental process. We have to make our mind to accept the present situation and try to practice any stress releasing techniques. Only at our silent moments we could hear our soul's voice. The soul is much powerful than our mind and body, but we have abandoned it and unnoticed it. Meditation and Yoga are the good methods to invoke our inner qualities. We have to rise above the normal thinking pattern of our mind. Each one can practice his own spiritual practices according to his religion. When we try to seek our creator, it will have a different effect on our whole being. Try to read some enlightenment stories of great yogis and it will surely make everyone a different person.

Our growth from narrow-mindedness to wholeheartedness will really make a change in our life. We will be a different person. We have to make our determination strong on everyday. Then nobody can enter and trouble our mental peace. Imagine that we have forgiven the individual who had hurt us. If we visualise it in our mind, it will do a lot to our mental health. If one is strong enough, then he can go and meet that person and express his new feelings towards that person. We should make sure that there is no 'stains of past' left in our minds. Now, we are totally free and we can feel a 'lightened' heart. We can go happily in our life's journey without any resentments in our mind.

Forgiveness in Our Family

We have a misconception that the family members are  a sort of people who do not need any special love, care and attention. Without giving anything, we get everything from our family. Unfortunately, this perception is really wrong. Family is the first and foremost place where there needed a well-bred nurturing. We learn to practice all virtues from our family. The agreements and the disagreements between the family members should be handled with care. When we get a good back up from our family, we can live harmoniously in the society according to the social norms.

"To err is human and to forgive is divine", this saying is much applicable in our personal lives.We all are prone to do wrongs, but the quality of forgiving is possessed by only a few. We all of us should try to acquire the virtue of forgiveness in our lives.

"Move On! Your life's journey is on the go. So do not waste your precious time elsewhere. Do not keep any resentments of your past in your mind. Abandon all the bitter experiences and try to gather up only delightful memories. Learn the virtue of forgiving and it will be a great help in your journey"!